7 Steps to Making Great Sex

The Kiss, by Auguste Rodin (1840-1917)*

“Where most beginning writers screw up (you should pardon the expression) is in thinking that sex scenes are about sex. A good sex scene is about the exchange of emotions, not bodily fluids.” (Diana Gabaldon, Chatelaine Magazine, Feb. 2012, p. 160)

When it comes to writing great sex scenes, Diana Gabaldon is considered a master. Her article in Chatelaine  makes the writing of ‘the steamy stuff’ seem do-able. Armed with my mighty, yellow highlighting pen I reviewed every detail and came up with what I call Diana’s Big Sexy 7:

  1. “A good sex scene is about the exchange of emotions, not bodily fluids.”
  2. It, “… can encompass any emotion.”
  3. Lust gets boring. It’s not an emotion.
  4. Show the emotion through dialogue, expression or action.
  5. Dialogue is, “the most flexible and powerful tool…What people say reveals the essence of their character.”
  6. “Anchor” the scene with physical details. Choose sensual not overtly sexual ones.
  7. Use metaphor and lyricism, if possible.

“In essence, a good sex scene is usually dialogue with physical details.”

Gabaldon has sold over 19 million books worldwide and is well known for her Outlander series.  She makes writing sex sound easy, but it’s not.

Deconstructing a moment in time that is so intensely personal, and powerful is difficult. I want it to change my characters’ lives, but that’s easier said than done. For me, it’s about making love.

Got any tips to add to Diana’s Big Sexy 7?


*(Depicts lovers from Dante’s Divine Comedy condemned to wander Hell for eternity. http://www.musee-rodin.fr/en/collections/sculptures/kiss-0)

Slapped Silly by SoMe

It's been one of those weeks.

Yes, this week I was slapped silly by SoMe (Social Media). I’d been toying with the idea of creating a writing platform for some time, but last Sunday, after hearing multi-published author Mimi Barbour talk about Twitter, I couldn’t hold back any longer. The dam holding my digital inhibitions shattered into a million pieces.

I’m kind of a shy gal, so I thought I’d take it slow. I set up a free blog with WordPress, reactivated my Twitter account and dipped my toe into Goodreads. OMG. Two days later I was up and running and getting great support. For example, my tweet announcing my baby blog was retreated to over 600 fellow twits. Imagine! The power of SoMe hit me. HARD.

On another note, my manuscript is  meandering along. I’m working on the first draft of the second book in my contemporary, category, Romantic- Suspense Series. I’m calling this one, Hidden (at the moment).  I hope that it’s ending doesn’t remain that way for too much longer:)

One of the  wonderful things about being a beginning writer is that I can see my writing improve by leaps and bounds, basically because it’s got so far to go … and I keep meeting up with great workshops, talented writers, books, critique partners and life. It’s exciting and fun. I feel like a kid who’s discovered a new playground.

I hope the words I wrestle with in my pajamas will  someday make sense. That’s my reflection on my week of writing.

I’m ending the week with a video clip of Steve Jobs talking about what it takes to succeed:

Sexy in the Scene or Sequel?

Yesterday, I finished an eye-opening, course on Scene and Sequel, given by multi-published author, Bonnie Edwards, through Savvy Authors.  The SCENE is the part in the story where all the action takes place, and the SEQUEL is the emotional fall-out from that action. The characters emotions lead  her to make a plan of action. That plan leads to the next scene, and so the plot unfolds; scene -sequel to scene- sequel… and so on.

I’d never thought about plot development in this way, but it makes sense. Both the scene and the sequel have essential components that make them work. Well written they improve not only the clarity of the story, but the pacing as well. It was an excellent course, and I highly recommend it.

You guessed it: I tend to leave out a few of those essential ingredients. My writing, at times, is like scrambled eggs without salt. My challenge now is to digest the theory that I’ve learned and let it flow into my work. But you may have noticed that I’m writing a post and not my manuscript at the moment:)

Sooo…is he sexy in the scene or the sequel? I would say he needs to be extremely sexy in the scene, but I want his memory to be equally sexy in the sequel.

Or more!