Reblogged, Writing Life

Learning to Drop the Donkey–Is Perfectionism Killing Your Career?

I met Kristen Lamb at Thrillerfest. She has a passion for writing that few can match.

Kristen Lamb's Blog

All of us want to do a good job. We want to put our best foot forward. We all say that we want feedback and critique, but deep down, if we are real honest, we want people to love everything we say and do. Unfortunately, this isn’t the reality. We can’t please everyone, and it is easy to fall into a people-pleasing trap that will steal our passion, our art, and our very identity.

I’ve seen this happen time and time again with writers. They rework and rework and rework the first chapter of their novel, trying to make it “perfect”—which is actually code for “making everyone happy.” Here is the thing. Not gonna happen. Ever.

One person will say our book is too wordy. Another wants more description. We add more description and then another person is slashing through, slaughtering every adjective and metaphor.

Lessons from Aesop

I find…

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2 thoughts on “Learning to Drop the Donkey–Is Perfectionism Killing Your Career?

  1. Yes, she’s got a good point. In fact she frequently does. I used her book YOU ARE NOT ALONE as a guide when I was first setting up my blog. We had her as one of the lead presenters in our NTRWA writing conference spring of 2012. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Hi Marsha
      I bet it was a great conference. She’s so full of energy.
      I just got back from visiting with all my grandbabies. Happy and exhausted.
      Thanks for stopping by.
      Best
      Jo-Ann

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