Talking Sex in Public

We met in the Starbucks area of the local Chapters bookstore and fell into a quiet conversation. As we are going to the RWA nationals in California next week we talked about everything from clothing and books to eating at Bubba Gumps. Then I started telling my friend about the last blog post I wrote: “How Can I Forget Sex?”

You think when you chat in places like this that your conversation is private, but the people around us leaned in, and a hush settled around our table. For a moment I thought someone would hit the floor from leaning. And all because I had said the word, “sex,” in public.

Being the Romance writers we are, we kept talking. The word is part of our vocabulary, but clearly not others. On one side a man looked like he was going to go into apoplexy every time I said, “sex.” It was too funny.

I wasn’t being prurient. I was simply talking writing craft. But the word, the three letter word “sex” stirs our society. It brings to mind that which hides behind the bedroom doors of our nation.

I say: let’s go for the stir.

Author: Jo-Ann Carson

About Jo-Ann Carson Where magic happens … Reports of Jo-Ann Carson’s death on a Gulf Island are greatly exaggerated or, at the very least, premature. The eclectic crew of ghosts that haunt her head spill onto the page in two series: The Gambling Ghosts and The Ghost & Abby Mysteries. A Viking with existential issues, a broken hearted Highlander, a Casanova man-witch and a Pirate with a secret are just a few of the males her strong heroines encounter in tales of fantasy, adventure and romance. A firm believer in the magic of our everyday lives, Jo-Ann loves watching sunrises, walking beaches near her home in the Pacific Northwest and reading by the fire. You can visit her on social media: Website * Blog * Twitter * Facebook

12 thoughts on “Talking Sex in Public”

  1. Too funny. We’ve had that happen in critique groups, and after last year’s local chapter RWA Christmas party, we learned to be more careful of where we book the party. Obviously we needed more privacy. Great post.


    1. Stephanie
      Great comment, but you’ve got me on the edge of my seat. What did your group do?
      Too funny.
      Happy writing


  2. Yes, Jo-Ann, I’ve had that happen with my CPs when we’ve met in public places to critique each other’s work. We dropped our voices, when we came to “those scenes,” but still, you could tell neighbors cocked an ear in our direction. LOL One of the many trials of being a romance writer. Have a super time next week in CA and best wishes for your Daphne finalist entrty!


    1. Hi Daniela
      It was actually the people on both sides of us, but the man on your right looked quite shaken by our conversation. Too funny.


  3. If you think just saying the word ‘sex’, try talking about BDSM with a friend in public. And it was nothing graphic or bad. The lady next to us moved. It was funny.


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